Most people hate to offend others by not telling them they are invading their personal space, but there comes a time when you are offending yourself by being “politically correct”. When you tell someone what they want to hear or withhold vital information from them you are doing them more harm.
Sometimes it is better to let someone know they are standing too close.
The issue of personal space varies from person to person.
Men and women have a different view.
I can speak for myself I treasure my personal space and I think most people do also.
Your personal space should be honored.
It is up to you to draw your boundaries. Some people are verbal while others give signs.
I have listed the 5 most common signs of personal space invasion.
1. The step back
This one is funny to see, but it is the most visual sign. If someone you are talking to take a step back they are trying to set up their personal space barrier.
It does not mean they are not interested in your conversation, but it is really hard to concentrate on your conversation when they are uncomfortable.
Please do not step forward.
Stepping forward can be seen as a sign of disrespect. Standing closer does not make your conversation more important.
2. Pretending to grab something
Sometimes we try to gain space by reaching for an object. The most common object in the workplace is the telephone.
It does not have to ring, for some reason now seems to be the best time to ergonomically adjust your telephone.
You have suffered with bad ergonomics for weeks.
You can gain some distance by reaching for the phone.
3. Covering your top lip
This is more of a sign that you have given up. You place your finger between your top lip and your nose. Personal space has become even more important now because you think you notice an awful smell.
The smell could be bad breath (halitosis) or body odor (B.O.). You say this must be what “hot garbage” smells like. It really does not matter you just need a breath of fresh air.
Unfortunately, your wish to stay P.C. has won over.
4. Facial twitching
You twist your nose so you might catch a passing breeze or maybe your nasal septum will close for a minute.
You get bold and ask them if they smell anything and the answer is always no.
You want to know why the answer is always no because they have become so accustomed to the smell they are immune.
5. The walk around
Sometimes people get a little more bold and they began to walk around the room. They are usually smiling from your story, not because your story is entertaining but they are happy to be breathing freely.
If you notice this behavior a lot it is probably better you call first.
Here is a bonus sign
1. Circulate air by turning on fan
They are not opposed to offending you. They have given up being P.C.. They do not care if you walk away a little hurt but at least they heard your whole conversation.
I want to know what methods you have used to gain personal space?
What distance is comfortable for you?
Do you believe in being politically correct?